Wanting to Belong

Fourteen!! Pax, took the Daily Red Pill (DRP) this morning and got better because for it.

The Pax: Squirrel, Flying Tomato, Beano, Dockers, Dos Equis, Poacher, Scout, CPT D, Sub Zero, Jeb, Baby Ruuuth, Roadhouse, Magic and the one and only Waldorf!

The Thang:

We stayed in somewhat of circle on the B-Ball courts and two pax took a turns pulling a card from the F3 Workout Deck, high card wins.

After the 1st round, each pax had to tell us why they came out to F3 and why they keep coming back when they pulled a card.

Announcements & Prayer Requests

  1. Virtual 100 Moore Men coming, details to follow
  2. Prayers for Guinness as he is actively working through COVID symptoms.  Seems to have hit him pretty hard.  

CPT D lead us out in prayer

MOLESKINE:  Wanting to Belong

What does the military, F3, the Church, the Rotary club, Joan’s bridge club, the Hells Angels, the local street gang have in common? 

We join these groups/gangs to belong to something bigger than ourselves.

Born into each of us is a deep need for love and belonging. We are biologically, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong.  And belonging isn’t the same as fitting in.  When I have tried to “fit in” and become like others I was the epitome of the Mascot.  Pretending to be something I wasn’t, nor could I be.  To truly belong I had to be honest with myself and everyone else.  I had to bring me and my gifts, no matter how small or big or weird they are. Most everyone seeks belonging.  It’s human nature and belonging makes us feel safe.  And it’s in feeling safe we are able to bring/use our gifts.  

Let me float this one out there:  We all come out in the Gloom to plant, grow and serve small workout groups for men for the invigoration of male community leadership…right?  This briefs well – yet it doesn’t quite get to the root of the longing of wanting to belong.  Think back over the past two-three years [pause].  When was the moment(s) where you felt your best?  When you were your best-self? 

  • At work? (not likely)
  • On vacation? (maybe…still doubtful)
  • Making dinner, choring, or running the 2.0’s to their next thing? (uh-uh)
  • In the bedroom? (That was too short….doesn’t count)

I’d bet it was when you were connected to other peeps who share similar morally good beliefs, who have a shared ethical purpose. Heck,  I’d lay money down, it’s when you were with your tribe.  And that tribe could be a running group, F3, a shield lock, Joan’s bridge club, whatever.  I do hope many of you say it’s with the F3 chuckleheads 😉

You know, I have an F3 sticker on my truck and on my M’s car.  Why?  I’m signaling to people that I like Fitness-Fellowship-Faith, that I’m kind, that I am here to help.  It’s a way of reminding me to live my promise of being, “a noble I got’cha”, in other words to be there in service to others—always.  For me it’s a part of my self-identity that I have come to love.  So yes, I will wear F3 shirts outside of the Gloom and put F3 stickers on my car and coffee mugs so others see love. Plus it helps me stay on the straight and narrow.  If I were to cut someone off or flip the bird it would be like the whole F3 Nation just cut them off or flipped them the bird.  My F3 experience has been living within a culture of  High Impact Men whose purpose is not service to self (or service of self Scout) but service to others.  I was desperately in need of community when I got here!  I needed to belong.  MadBum had the heart to see that and showed me that love first and the rest of you have shown it ever since! 

When we EH guys to get them to come out and experience F3 Sandhills we do so to bring out their best selves.  Not for selfish reasons….for those are exposed over time.  And when you present one thing and then they figure out it was all fake you’ve lost the trust.  Think back to when you came into F3.  There was a bit of vulnerability to open yourself up and venture in hoping this band of brothers was for real.  For YHC it is clear.  This group of HIM’s is Fo Real!

Now the question is, why do I belong? What’s my purpose?  It is not YHC’s goal to EH guys who wants what we have, it’s to show them why we do it.  The Sad Clown doesn’t buy into what we do; he buys into why we do it.

  • Maybe it’s belonging to something bigger than himself
  • Maybe it’s to do life with other men, not as a mascot
  • Maybe it’s…to serve others

We have all likely had many tribes as we have gone through life.  For me it was sports in High School, the church, the Army and F3.  Maybe, someday, I’ll get into Joan’s Bridge club! 

Regardless of WHAT we do in our lives, our WHY—our driving purpose, cause or belief—never changes!  I have found my tribe and I know why I am here.

So, why are you here?


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