Transactional versus Relational

Eight Pax, took the Daily Red Pill (DRP) this morning and got better because for it.

The Pax: Squirrel, Swanson, Scout, Lucha, CPT D, MadBum, Neo and Flying Tomato

The Scene: Nippy.

The Thang:  And so it began. Grab your Coupon

Round 1

  • 20 Coupon Swings
  • 20 Coupon Squat Press
  • 20 Monkey Humpers
  • Method of Travel: Murder Bunny to next line
  • Rinse/repeat then back to start

Round 2

  • 20 Curls
  • 20 Dips
  • 20 Plyo Merkins (10 ea. side)
  • Method of Travel: Lunge Walk to next line
  • Rinse/repeat then back to start


Round 3 

  • 10 Blockee’s
  • 10 Alpo’s (cross hand shoulder raise)
  • 10 Derkins
  • Method of Travel: Rifle Carry to next line
  • Rinse/repeat then back to start


Round 4

  • 20 Coupon Swings
  • 20 Coupon Squat Press
  • 20 Monkey Humpers
  • Method of Travel: Murder Bunny to next line
  • Rinse/repeat then back to start

Finish with the core

  • The 100
  • At CPT D’s request we did The 100 a second time
  • 10 Xs & Os
  • 20 WWII Situps, In cadence … that sucked
  • 30 Freddy Mercury’s In cadence
  • 40 Not so Long slow Flutter In cadence
  • 40 Side leg raises (ea side) In cadence


  • Q Source Zoom Call next Wednesday, subject is Meeting

Flying Tomato lead us out in prayer


Nature has a way of bringing clarity to me or at least getting me to think.  There I was picking pine straw out of the Azalea’s while following CDC guidelines on when to go back to work after a negative covid test.  (I stopped capitalizing covid to take its power away) When all of a sudden, I had the thought float through my mind, “does the job really matter?” Followed quickly by “would they even missed me if I wasn’t there?”  The first answer, today, is maybe.  The second answer is probably not. 

A friend recently asked me why I call people when they cross my mind.  “What’s the why?”  The answer came quickly.  Because they matter, because they are seen, because I care about them.  On the other end of the phone I hear, “hmmm.” I continued, “because I was a shitty friend in my 20s-30s-40s.  I was a transactional “friend”.  It was all about the mission, the work.  It was go to work, think about how to do work differently/better, then at a social gathering talk about….work.”  That’s all I ever talked about and I was guilty of maintaining hollow transactional relationships.

Then I moved back to North Carolina.  First job down here was a soul suck.  The second job I hoped would be me doing work for elderly and building relationships–bust.  Third job? Still working at it and today highlighted to me that it is a transactional place.  It’s all about the “thing” or the project.  I stopped.  Am I flawed? (don’t answer that!)  After all the common denominator was me.  [Insert gut punch here] Maybe it’s the place.  Maybe it’s the times we are in. Maybe….

I’ve come to deeply know a few things.  Nothing, No Thing, is more important than a person.  When the time comes to leave the workforce, I won’t have a legacy of Steve Jobs or Elon Musk or many others.  When the time comes to leave this world, I hope that my legacy is left through my friends.  I realized that through this past year the anchors in my life have been my wife, sharing stories through letters with my daughter, my Shield Lock, and posting with you men of F3 Sandhills.  The joking, the laughter, the honesty, the realness of friendships.  My prayer life is present and it has been a bit wobbly. 

All that left me with, “is there any job that’s worth it?”  In Genesis it’s clear, Man was made to work. God created us to do work similar to His work and to experience similar benefits; God looked over everything he had made; it was so good, so very good! It was evening, it was morning— Day Six. (Genesis 1:31).  Our work is to be creativevigorous (“have dominion . . . subdue”), and give us joy – God “blessed” us with his mandate.  We aren’t meant to work just to get a paycheck, or to prove our worth, or to gain our identity because we’re insecure or prideful. God didn’t design work to be a drudgery, or a necessary evil. That disease infected our work when we fell from grace.

There you have it – get to work.  So that’s it?  Not for me, and if I may be so bold, not for the Creator. There is a need for Purpose.  That something we do or create — not something we buy or achieve.  The steady goal that is meaningful, if only to you. For some it is the financial upside to Mammon that gives meaning. For others, the meaning is in belonging or otherwise said – relationships.  My purpose isn’t to help create a computer for some Executives.  What it is, I’m not 100% sure. That’s part of my work to do.  What I have seen is that connected people are generally happy.  They enthusiastically help out their friends to generate ideas or complete challenging tasks…..CSAUP anyone?

So, what lies ahead? Who knows. What I do know is that it’s time to kick transactional relationships to the curb.


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